Good morning and welcome back. Yesterday I promised to speak about the soul. For the sole purpose of reaching my life goals and dreams, I have to set my mind on what I want to achieve. I have to focus, fill my thoughts with the things that will help me reach those pinnacles. I need to protect my body, mind and soul from people or things that will steal, detour, or destroy the plans I have made. Not everyone in my life is good for me, some will not only destroy the plans I make by sabotaging my progress in my physical goals, messing with my mind and peace, but they will also seek to destroy my soul.
From the time we are born we are told how important family and friends are, often to the point that we ‘put up’ with toxic people in our lives because we happen to be related to them or grew up around and with them. We essentially are taught to be tolerant and acceptable of abuse if we had the misfortune of being born within an abusive family or on a particular side of the tracks. As a child, we have no choice. As a young adult, we are often tortured during those transitional years of dependency to independence, and some of us have to navigate that journey into adulthood with an already damaged soul.
Our souls are the most precious part of who we are. Our exterior, our body, our skin, our faces, our strengths, our genetics, our culture… those are not the great and important aspects that truly define us as human being; those are the shallow parts. The depth of who we are as a person is the part known as our soul. This is the part of us that defines the difference between right and wrong, compassion or apathy, love or hate, our integrity, and our self-esteem, etc. This is truly what defines our beauty. But the world is shallow and most often can’t see beyond the exterior, physical, shallow aspects until we’ve entered into a relationship with someone, and thereby endangering our souls from the choices we made.
Come on, we’ve all done it. We’ve all at one time become infatuated with a beautiful smile, a set of dimples, strong muscles, or long, beautiful legs. We’ve fantasized about who we wanted that person of our infatuation to be, and it was good… while the fantasy lasted. But then we got to know the person behind the dimples, behind the muscles, behind the smile, behind the crocodile tears, behind the legs or the boobs, and that picture wasn’t as pretty as the one we had first imagined. Soon, those things we first found attractive was no longer eye-catching, because the soul became more and more evident. This has happened to everyone. My question is this: How much damage did we allow to happen to our souls during this time of infatuation? How much damage do we then cause to the next soul that comes into our lives because of the state of our now-damaged souls? Can you see the cycle?
We have to protect ourselves – our bodies, our minds, and especially our souls. We have to forget all that fucking nonsense that was drilled into us as children that we have to ‘put up’ with toxic people because they’re relatives or from the ‘hood. We don’t HAVE to do anything or allow anyone into our lives that we don’t choose. If they’re toxic, selfish, detrimental to your own well-being, vampires that use, abuse, or take us for granted, disguised as friends but add no value to our lives, only there with their hands out when they need something – CHOOSE to protect and love yourself enough to walk away. Choose to protect your soul. Choose to fight for yourself. Don’t allow them to infect your own soul and bring you down.
Here is a truth that I hope will change your life. It changed mine. So, listen, and listen carefully. IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO SAVE THE WORLD. It’s not. We don’t possess the power to save anyone from anything. People have to want to save themselves. This is what I’m trying to tell you today. YOU have to want to save YOURSELF. It’s God’s job to save other people’s souls, not yours. If the world would concentrate on saving themselves, focus on being a good person with a beautiful soul, and then they will have a beauty that the rest of the world can see. They will possess goodness, kindness, and compassion the world needs.
Protect your soul. Stop allowing people to use you, to take from you when you have nothing for yourself. Surround yourself with people who sow INTO you, who encourage you, who lift you up; not take from you, drain you, and takes advantage of you and what you have. Until you are strong enough to be an example, to be a light, you’re sacrificing your own light, your own soul. How can you be a light when you’re filled with darkness, and pain, and your soul is so damaged from the abuse of those who claim to love you most? It’s not selfish to cut these toxic relationships out of your life. Separate yourself – no matter if it’s a parent, a sibling, a gown child, an ex, a childhood friend, a neighbor, or a co-worker – it doesn’t matter who they are. If they’re toxic and they have an ugly soul, or your soul is too damaged to deal with their drama – protect yourself. This is YOUR life. You only get ONE. You don’t get a do-over.
Protecting yourself, your body, mind and soul, is not going to be easy. It will require dedication, determination, and devotion. Love your body enough to do what is necessary to be healthy, to be fit to enjoy the things that make this life adventurous. Love your mind enough to do what is necessary to be brilliant, open, and inquisitive, seeking out those dreams and ideas that will fulfill your life and give it purpose. Love your soul enough to be a good person, a light in a dark world, deep love in a shallow society. This is YOUR choice. This is MY choice.
I’ve been a lot of dates that remind me constantly of how much the world is so focused on the shallow outside, how much there is a lack of vision, drive, and determination in the pursuit of happiness, and how many dark souls are out there just waiting to use and abuse me. It hurts my heart. I’m so disappointed in what I’m finding. I had to quit dating before I fully lost faith in men and in society in general. I’m an odd duck. I actually care about the world around me and the people in it. But I keep dreaming, I keep praying, and I keep working on MYSELF to become the best person I can, hoping that I may be a light for someone. I can’t save the world. It’s not my job. I am responsible for everything I do and say, but I’m not responsible for what the world hears or how they respond. I hope I am a light on a hill, and that is why I work so hard to make sure I protect and focus my love on my body, my mind, and my soul.
Until next time,