I can’t express how much better I feel since starting back at the gym. I don’t think it’s just a result from physical activity. Working out has made me hurt in lots pain, waking up with Charlie’s almost daily. It hurts to breathe and hurts to move. No, the physical activity has reminded me almost every second I’m not so young anymore. But, I can handle the pain because I can feel I’m getting stronger, my body’s energy is increasing, I’m less winded, and once those torn muscles heal and adapt, they too will be fine.
No, I think the main reason I feel so much better is because I’m doing something for myself. I was drowning and getting lost in taking care of everyone else. I neglected the most important person in my life, the person I’ve spent the last five years falling in love with, healing, forgiving, and discovering, the one person I know without doubt loves me – me.
I know it sounds arrogant, but I can’t express enough to anyone and everyone how important it is to love yourself – first and foremost. It’s that self love inside that heals the wounds inflicted, both internal and external. You CAN’T love anyone else, not truly, without first being filled with love yourself. If we have no love inside, with what are we giving and loving to others? We’re not. Being in a relationship (friends, family, lovers) with anyone when we have no love for ourselves makes us vampires, because we’re not giving anything, only taking or feeding off the life and love of what others are giving to us. But it’ll never be enough. It’ll feel good at first because we’re empty and hollow, and their affection will be like a soothing drug, but in time it can’t fill the emptiness, the hole within our souls that can only be filled by us.
I’ve also learned the hard way that I can’t depend on others to love me. People, humanity in general, fail. But I’m thankful for that failure because it’s taught me to be strong, to survive, to learn to turn to myself, to be independent, and strong, and self-motivated, self-assured, and self-dependent. Nothing is more dangerous or weak than a co-dependent soul.
We are human beings and capable of failure, mistakes, and bad choices. Just look around. But within us all is the potential to learn from those failures, mistakes, and bad choices and discover success, integrity, and how to make good choices. Humanity is both ugly and beautiful, hateful and merciful, selfish and selfless.
So, here I am making a good choice, emotionally, physically, and spiritually for myself, because there’s an ugly world out there that needs a little bit of light, a little bit of love, a little bit of encouragement, a little bit of mercy, and a little bit of hope and inspiration. If my example can just inspire ONE person to begin to love and do something good for themselves, then I call that success. Just one, even if that one is just me.