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Can You Hear Me?

I’m discovering that people really don’t listen anymore. They don’t really hear what you’re saying, only what they think you’re saying, or even what they want you to say, but they’re not listening.  We’ve become such a selfish society, including myself, where everything we want and do is to satisfy ourselves and our desires.  That’s all good and well, but I’ve learned something over the years – true happiness isn’t wrapped up in what we can do and achieve for ourselves.  It’s often found in what we can do and give to another. Can you hear me?

I’ve achieved a lot of great things in this life.  I’ve accomplished many great things, but my most proud achievements aren’t in the awards, the degrees, the possessions, or in anything or anyone I possess.  My greatest achievements have been those moments of love and inspiration that I’ve been able to pour into someone else.   It’s in love – love given, love received.  It’s in real love; not sex, not affection, not adoration, and not praise, but love.  Can you hear me?

God said that there is no greater love than a man lay down his life for his friends.  That love is patient, kind, etc.  I look around at this crazy, selfish world and I weep because of what has become of love.  I am often naïve to the desires of this world, and I’ll get into some examples of that in a moment, but I’m not stupid.  It’s not that I’m simple; it’s that I put so much of my heart in the hope of what I want to see and receive from the world – that I take chance, after chance, after chance… and keep meeting and experiencing the ugly side of love, the empty selfish side of desire, and the disappointing side of hope.  Can you hear me?

I’ve been honest with everyone I’ve spoken or meet.  I’ve recently had two encounters that frustrate me to no end.  I’m single and I’m lonely.  I have all this love inside and no one to share it. I have friends who love me, but I am missing that one friend that I can share everything inside me.  I had that once, and it was beautiful, and I was so happy despite any trouble we had to face.  With him, I could face anything.  I wanted to give him the world, but he didn’t want the same. He wasn’t in the same place as me. Love frightened him, so he ran, and left this gaping hole inside.  He was my bright spot, my warm sun in a cold, dim world.  He seared me, burned me, and left a everlasting scar, but he also showed me that the kind of love I’ve been hoping for my whole life is still out there, that it does still exist.  I thought it died with James on that Somalian battlefield, but it didn’t.  I again thought it died in a Puerto Rican smile, but I hold onto the hope that it’s out there, somewhere for me.

But, hanging onto this hope in this buffet world of instant gratification and self-indulgence is very hard.  I’m a single mermaid in a sea of sharks.  I’m trying to be open to meet someone, to make myself available to find another sun, another bright spot, a best friend, a soul mate.  I don’t need to be saved, I’m not desperate, and I don’t suffer from low self-esteem where I need the attention from predators in order to feel beautiful, sexy, or accomplished.  But, I am lonely and I’m a natural flirt.  That seems to send the wrong signal to these sharks.

I met a man online recently and was very open and honest about what I hoped to find. He agreed and told me he was looking for the same thing.  So, I gave him my number, believing that I might have found someone who could swim in deep waters.  But, it wasn’t long before the messages turned to sexual innuendo and offers to cuddle.  I cried, probably for an hour, angry at myself for being so stupid and naïve to believe he meant what he said.  When I didn’t respond to his advances, he got defensive and basically told me that if I’m not opened to cuddling that I should enjoy being single.  I LOVE cuddling, with MY man, not a man that hops from woman to woman, to woman, to woman.  Yet, this sentiment seems to be the status quo.  Can you hear me?

I want all those wild, crazy, sexy, kinky, funny, adventurous experiences with a man – one man, My man. It seems men are too afraid these days to put their hearts out there on the line for a woman.  I understand, I see the types of women out there.  But, that’s not me. I want to share my whole heart, my whole soul, my whole being with someone who wants to share the same with me. If it makes me an odd duck.. quack! quack!  And If I end up being a lonely spinster… I’ll get a fucking cat.  Can you hear me?

I’m a mermaid and I swim in deep waters, down where there is no light to sparkle off your hooks. I have to be met where I’m at if a man wants to capture my heart.  If he can hook my heart, my body will follow. My heart is the center of my being; it’s what holds my Siren’s song.  Wound me by trying to grab me or my fins, and you’ll only get a Banshee’s wail, and I’ll disappear into the depths you can’t swim. Can you hear me?

Till next time,

T.L. Gray

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My Skydive Experience



Okay, guys… I did it.  I jumped out a perfectly good airplane and lived to tell about it.  I really didn’t see any reason to stay in the plane since all the good-looking guys jumped out before me… and one awesome, cool, tandem instructor strapped to my back really wanted to jump too, so… I decided… “What the hell? ” and jumped!

It was the best, most thrilling thing I’ve ever done.  I soooooooooo, sooooooo, soooooo want to do it again.

People… we’ve got to live out loud.  We can’t sit back and keep saying, ‘someday’ and ‘tomorrow’.  NOTHING ever happens when you say that.  ONLY when you make up your mind to do it, does anything in this life get done.  So do it… and live your life out loud.

I can’t thank everyone enough at Skydive the Farm, ATL Skydiving and Agent Lead for all the encouragement they’ve given me to fulfill this wish on my bucket list.

Anyone interested in skydiving… CALL these guys first… and tell them T.L. sent ya!

Now watch my super-duper awesome video… and check out some of the pictures below.

Till next time,

~T.L. Gray

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Perilous Roses Author Q&A with T.L. Gray

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Perilous Roses Author Q&A with T.L. Gray.

Although the book linked is not mine.

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T.L.’s Terrific Blog Hop

Thanks to my fellow Scribophile avatar battle nemesis, George Wells, I’ve been hopped upon… and now must return the favor as well as hop on a few other heads.  I have to admit I’m finding this quite entertaining.

george Wells

Okay, the first part of this Hop is for me to answer three questions.  I’d rather make three wishes, but I guess I must answer questions instead.

 Question #1 – What am I working on?  Well, what am I NOT working on would have been a more prudent question and a much easier one to answer.  Apart from reading query letters, social networking, promotion, and marketing, I work hard placing my writers into the hands of publishers at my literary agency (North Star Literary Agency).  I also keep my editors busy at North Star Editing Services. With my own writing I stay busy crafting short stories, chapters on my novels Hunter & Chase and The Immortals, flash fiction, and poetry.  I also keep busy writing articles for the West Georgia Living Magazine and  Let’s not forget I try to post at least 3-5 times on my various blogs, including this one.  At this rate I even write in the few hours of sleep I might steal every now and again. Besides sleep is overrated –who needs it?

Question #2 – How does my work differ from others in its genre? Well, I don’t really mean to be a smart-ass, but what makes my work different is the fact that I wrote it.  My work encompasses my passions, my sense of humor, and my quirky personality – which is something no one else could ever duplicate.  They can be similar, but never the same. 

Question #3 – Why do I write what I do?  Simple – because it’s what I like.  I once tried to write what I thought other people would be interested in, but in the process of trying to shove my big imagination and personality into something demure, I ended up wasting my time and misusing my talent.  I’m best at writing when I’m writing myself.

Well, that wasn’t so bad.  If you’ve got any lick of common sense, you should be able to get a good idea of the type of personality I possess.  And now, as much as I hate to share the limelight, I must shift the focus from me and shine it toward a few other writers who deserve at least a glance of your attention.  I completely love and respect these writers and would very much appreciate it if you would hop on over and visit their pages.

 My first victim is Mark Lawrence, author of The Broken Empire series.  In my opinion he’s a modern-day philosopher, but the publishing industry insists on calling him a fiction novelist.  He does pretty well at writing a good book, but the wisdom, knowledge, and philosophy he peppers throughout the pages of his novels are out of this world.  This Brit’s blog can be found at: http://mark—  so, hop on over there and give him a look-sy.

 Mark Lawrence 

Mark Lawrence is married with four children, one of whom is severely disabled. His day job is as a research scientist focused on various rather intractable problems in the field of artificial intelligence. He has held secret level clearance with both US and UK governments. At one point he was qualified to say ‘this isn’t rocket science … oh wait, it actually is’.

 Between work and caring for his disabled child, Mark spends his time writing, playing computer games, tending an allotment, brewing beer, and avoiding DIY.

My next victim is writer Christian Fennell, author of the upcoming novel, Urram Hill. There are not many writers that move my soul the way this one does.  I’d place him right up there with Charles Bukowski, Jack Kerouac, Jeff Suwak, Mark Lawrence and Patrick Rothfuss.  This is one of those few authors I’d read over and over and over again. Like his mentor, Cormac McCarthy, Fennell likes to break the rules and think outside the box.  So, if you like boxes, you might want to skip this rebel.  But, if you’re up for a little excitement, hop on over to  and check out what he’s up to.

 Christian Fennell 

Christian Fennell is currently working on two books: a collection of short stories – On My Way to Sunday, and a novel – Urram Hill. When not writing fiction, he works as a freelance technical writer and editor. He’s currently a contributing writer for The Prague Review.

My last victim is an up and becoming talent, R.M. James, author of Hear Me Scream, the first book in the Sorrows trilogy.  The first time I read this novel, I read it blind as I judged a writing contest, and had no idea about the author.  When I found out it was the ever so sweet and beautiful R.M. James, I couldn’t believe such a dark, detailed, post-apocalyptic and violent story could came from the same person. I was literally floored at the writing talent of this young woman.  I have to admit, I was also a little jealous.  I can’t wait for her debut novel to sweep the country and make the rest of you fall in love with her as I have.  So, don’t hesitate any longer, hop on over to her blog and see what survival tips she has left for you at .


Living in the wild countryside serves R.M. James as an open casket bloated with story ideas. She perceives the strange in the mundane and the majestic in the ordinary. She loves writing. She loves reading. The two arts often collide in a struggle for supremacy that neither one ever loses. Victory comes in the form a good read in a brand new novel.

Okay, folks …that should be all of it. I hope you’ve enjoyed that little bit of hopping. I’m sure you all needed the exercise. Please don’t hesitate to leave a comment – but make sure they’re pithy and make absolutely no sense. I’ve a low tolerance for sensible comments.

Till next time,

~T.L Gray

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Dog River Library Festival ’13


One of the joys of being a writer is the opportunity to meet fans and readers face to face at local writing events, festivals, signings and conferences.  It’s a chance to connect to the reader, gauge responses to the work you’ve worked hard to create, see how well our vision translates, and just have a moment to witness the fruit to all our labor.

Last year I attended over 42 appearances all over the state of Georgia.  I went as far south as Columbus and Milledgeville, east to Lawrenceville in Gwinnett County, north to Marietta and west to Bowdon Junction.  I could be found at festivals, cultural art centers, bookstores and libraries.  I met readers as young as ten and as old at 110, and I loved every moment.  This weekend I attended the Dog River Library Festival ’13.

My life has since been turned upside down (some for the good, some not so good) and took a little break from appearances.  I also took a little break from the marketing and business side of writing and publication and spent a little time being reminded of my joy and passion for the art of writing.  I learned a few new styles of writing, and dabbled in a few new genres.  I developed a love and appreciation for poetry, short stories and flash fiction, and danced around with the construction and exposition of romance and erotica (two genres I loathed to read).  I spent some time in the company and awe of other talented writers.

It’s really important for writers to be surrounded by other writers, to learn from, to associate and to relate.  I needed the writers that have come in my life so much I doubt I’ll ever be able to fully express to them how much they have all meant to me. Recently, I’ve reconnected with some of my readers and fans and have made a few appearances as local festivals and appearances.  That’s important too.

But, it’s time to get back to work.  I’m now diving back into my writing and pushing my literary agency to the next level.  Thank you, everyone, to all those who have supported and stuck with me through what has been a very wild and changing season in my life.

Till next time,

~T.L. Gray


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Mecca Fest ’13

Photos by T.L. Gray

Photos by T.L. Gray


There are few things in this world I enjoy more than hanging out with fellow writers and artist, except meeting new and old readers.  Most of a writer’s life is spent alone sitting behind a computer or in isolation somewhere as they get lost in their current work.  But we have to be careful not to disconnect.

One of the most important and crucial part to a writer’s life, in my opinion, is interacting, learning, communicating, and being in fellowship with other writers and readers.  No matter how much of an introvert we are, we cannot isolate ourselves from the very tools that are meant to sharpen our skills.

I learn something from every interaction I have with my fellow writer friends and responses from readers; every time.  This past weekend was no exception.  Though I’m exhausted, I enjoyed every minute of the 2013 Mecca Fest at the Carrollton Cultural Arts Center.  When I move away, this will be one event I hope I never miss.

Till next time,

~T.L. Gray


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The Outgoing Introvert

Pictures by T.L. Gray

Pictures by T.L. Gray


I’m gearing up for my big event today at the University of West Georgia Book Fest ‘13.  For those who know me, know this outgoing splash of color who does really, really well interacting with people. I’m a great public speaker and often the life of the party. What most people don’t know is that I nearly throw up right before I paste that smile on my face and get into social mode.

I’m quite an introvert and spend a lot of time on my own, and even have to fight with myself sometimes to leave my own door.  I know it’s just a fear, one I’ve had all my life, and one that as soon as I take the first step I can control and overcome.  But taking that first step, picking up the phone, opening the door, walking out of the room is sometimes one of the hardest things I do all day.  My friends often think I don’t love them or care because I don’t call them, text them, or message them first, or I don’t answer immediately when they do.  What they don’t realize is that often I desperately need them, but I won’t reach out because of these fears.

I can almost guarantee when I get home tonight, I will pass out from exhaustion, because facing those kinds of fears and being “ON” takes a lot of energy. It’s a constant battle.

I’m sure many of you right now have open jaws, unable to believe this crazy thing about me, having seen me in action, heard me speak, and watched me perform.  If you only knew how scared I am, and how much I’d rather just crawl beneath the covers on my bed and hide until the whole event was over, you’d be surprised I do anything. Don’t worry, I won’t hide.  I’ve been fighting against this fear all night and all morning.  I’m about to gather my materials, pack them into my car, take a deep breath, and put on my cape (in this case a nice, big hat).

It’s time to fly, and it doesn’t matter I’m deathly afraid of heights.

Till next time,

~T.L. Gray

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Author Appearance – T.L. Gray


I will be there signing copies of my pubilshed books.  I’d love to see you if you can make it.

UWG to Host Inaugural Bookfest for Local Authors

The University of West Georgia Bookstore is hosting more than 20 local and regional authors for the inaugural “UWG Bookfest” book festival on Wednesday, September 18, 2013, at 7:00 p.m. This catered event is free and open to the public.

The University of West Georgia Bookstore is hosting more than 20 local and regional authors for the inaugural “UWG Bookfest” book festival on Wednesday, September 18, 2013, at 7:00 p.m.

“The UWG Bookstore wanted to provide a venue to local authors, as well as faculty, staff and alumni with publications, to celebrate their accomplishments,” says Mark Rhodes, manager of the UWG Bookstore. “It is also our desire to raise public awareness about the great artistic and literary community in Carrollton and surrounding areas. We hope this special event will be a highlight for them.”

Guests will enjoy free food, readings from authors, book signings and music provided by WOLF radio. Guests will also receive a 5 percent discount on all UWG Bookstore merchandise excluding books featured during bookfest.

The impressive list of authors represents all genres and includes several who are now living in the Carrollton area, are alumni of UWG or are current UWG professors. With everything from historical romance and the paranormal to poetry, operas and more, the bookfest offers something for everyone.

The UWG Bookstore is located at the corner of West Georgia Drive and University Drive and is open Monday through Thursday from 8 a.m. to 6 p.m., and Friday from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m.

For more information, please visit or call (678) 839-6523.

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Till next time,

~T.L. Gray


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